Alright, you all know I think this mothering thing is difficult...but must I face challenges every day? I need a day off! I need a guide book! I think I'm too involved with my kids and their lives but I don't know how to do anything different. My kids are a part of me and when they experience strong emotions...I feel like I am one with them and they don't even have to show it or express it for me to know exactly how they are feeling. I know that may sound strange but it's been like that forever. I know my oldest is only 14 but how do I sit by and watch his heart get broken? I know this is just puppy love but do you remember being 14? I remember the heart ache of being a young teen...for them it is real and I don't want to undermine his feelings. I've taught him to be respectful and in tune to other people's feelings...so how do I teach him how to keep himself happy and not hurt anyone else??? The voices in my head are screaming to tell him the warning signs of the creatures who lurk in the dark (aka-girls) and then they are screaming to be quiet and let him learn. One problem...I haven't been able to keep my mouth shut since birth! LOL We all know if your parent forbids you to date someone...they look all that more attractive. So, I haven't forbid the relationship but I have been pointing out obvious behaviors to him. Is this wrong? I hug him and tell him how much his father and I love him and that we only want what's best for him. He does talk to me...openly and I don't want to lose that part of our relationship. Please pray for me to keep my mouth shut except when it's appropriate. Any words of wisdom are greatly appreciated.
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Yeah, I remember being 14 and crying lots of tears in your very room. I also remember my folks saying no and yes it did make me run right toward who they said to avoid. You and Todd are great parents. You have lived it so that makes you understand even more. Pray for him, love him and don't preach I told you so. In the end, he will remember. Even if it is too late. Sometimes you have to fall and wait for mom and dad to catch you..
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